"Karyn Langhorne Folan, author of "Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out," encourages single black women to date and marry inter-racially.
Many social commentators have observed that it's hard for a young, educated black woman to find a black man with the same educational level to marry because pickings are slim. Karyn Langhorne Folan notes that black women are just waiting. Waiting for that "good" black man to come and sweep them off their feet. The problem is, for many, that hasn't happened yet. Langhorne Folan is not saying there are no good black men out there, she is just simply saying to explore all the options that are offered. It's a solution to consider entering 2011 and beyond.
But is this sound advice? The stigmas that come with dating outside one’s race can bring emotional and social strife. Instances where women have been called "sellouts," or white-acting, are discussed in the article "Single Women Being Urged to Date Outside Their Race".
Love and the Black Woman would like to hear your thoughts.
Should black women stick to dating their own race, or should they branch out and explore? Should racial loyalty have precedence over self-preservation?
Do you personally feel that racial loyalties in dating and marriage should be encouraged, or do you believe that it is best to explore those *other* possibilities out there?
I don't think racial loyalties should be encouraged. With the ever growing racial tolerance, and acceptance, it is best to explore whatever options are out there.
ReplyDeleteJust because you may be black, hispanic, or asian doesn't mean it's going to work out dating your own race. You might as well try it all to see what fits you the best.
Strong black families are becoming less and less, and with interracial marriages it will become non-existent. People need to stick to their own races. Turning your back on your own race is having lasting effects.
ReplyDeleteI'm all for interracial dating, believe me, but it's not for me. You do what you want, but you don't have to bring 'loyalties' into the argument. Loyalty has nothing to do with it. It's all about preference. NOT about who people *think* you *should* be with. SMH.
ReplyDeleteToo many stigmas can come with interracial dating and it's just not going to be accepted. Down the line someday? Maybe. But right now, no, it won't be. Right now you should to date their own.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry girl, that strong black man will come. He may be a little late, but he'll come!
Honestly, I could not be more SICK AND TIRED of this particular discourse! i am a woman seeking a man, that is it. He could be black, white, pink, blue, have one leg, two legs, 3 legs and 4 ears as long as he treats me the way i deserve to be treated and as long as the love is unconditional and mutual he is the one for me. i mean SHEESH, will we spend the rest of out lives going around in circles?
ReplyDeletepahahahashduhaha so this is what black people are sitting aorund talking about? you guys have more problems than that, this should be the LAST thing on your list of discussion topics...no offense
ReplyDeleteSo funny how I literally just saw the movie Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (the original w/ Sidney Portier and Audrey Hepburn not that terrible remake w/ Zoe Saldana and lame ass ashtin kutcher). That movie really makes you think about interracial dating- sure it can work but lets be serious, Sydney Portier was a well accomplished black man, accolades up the wazoo and he fell into a whirlwind romance w/ Audrey hepburn.
ReplyDeletesound familiar? why is it that successful black men are always running away w/ their forbvidden fruit- the white woman? i thought it was inly actors and athletes but that movie was made in 1967, 19 frikkin 67!!!!!!!!
All im trying to say is interracial dating isnt a crime but in the interest of 1. uplifting our own community 2. conserving what was stated above "strong black families" and 3. loving ourselves & eachother, can we puhlease make sure that when we are dating outside our race it is because true and complete love demands and not because somehow we still believe that whiteness is the prize
were you watchin TMC too>? turner classic movies always plays the best oldies but goodies
ReplyDeletelmfao @ BangBangGoesTheTrolley "Don't worry girl, that strong black man will come. He may be a little late, but he'll come!"
ReplyDeleteJust like a black person,always late as hell even for love lmfao
Interracial dating is just too much of a challenge in America, life for the African American is complicated enough as it is. I hear in Germany its not a big deal so if you are looking for love in a different part of the rainbow head for berlin! i mean imnot really against it, its just that society wont allow it and thats the truth no need to live in denial. We have come a logn way from slavery but we have much farther to travel
ReplyDeletei wanna know what world some folks are living in where interracial relationships are "impossible" and something that society won't allow.
ReplyDeletei'm not saying you SHOULD date outside your race. but if you're not going to, i can at least respect it if it's simply not your preference. but because you're too scared of being judged and shot dirty looks? that's weak.
as for preserving purity of races or whatever, kill that nonsense. if some skinhead white boy said that crap he'd be vilified, and rightfully so. some of you are part of the problem, for real.
i only date latino guys, best of both worlds so ha sue me
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