New trends in 2011 relationships include the emergence of the "Assertive Woman," the woman who does not have to wait for her man to make the first move. The “Assertive Woman” refuses to remain idle as the man that she likes walks right past her. Instead, the “Assertive Woman” will ask that love interest out on a first date.
This same fearless spirit can also apply to marriage proposals. We all know or have heard of couples who have been dating for years, or even decades, without tying the knot. Sometimes a girlfriend’s acts of subtly reading wedding magazines and commenting about other people getting married do not inspire a “commitaphobe” man to act. 2011's "Assertive Woman" is taking matters into her own hands, shattering tradition and getting down on one knee. You might be saying to yourself, "Lord, is that true? I could never imagine taking over the man's role in a relationship." My answer to you? Yes it is, and it is becoming more and more common practice for the woman to slide an engagement ring (or, according to Fox News, a "management" ring) onto her significant other's finger.
Women have such prominent roles in government, television, business, etc., why not in the relationship when it comes to commitment decision-making?
Do you think that this act taints the idea of proposals by having the woman play the role of man? In your current relationship, has it crossed your mind to be assertive and propose?
Even further, do you believe that a woman who proposes is setting herself up for an unhappy marriage?
Love and the Black Woman wants to know what you think. Your comments are appreciated.
I'd love it if my girl proposed to me, come on. You know how much pressure and fear goes into figuring out whether you want to spend the rest of your life with someone? Take that pressure all off me. May sound wrong (I don't care), but make that decision for me.
ReplyDeleteCome on, stop trying to emasculate us even further. I know we got equal rights everywhere else, but don't take away MY right to decide if I want to get married. Jeeeeeez.
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ReplyDeleteYou have every right to say no, just like every WOMAN has the right to say no if you decide to get down on your knee. Ever think of that?
It's not emasculation -- it's a breaking of convention. A welcomed one, actually.