The Weigh In, Week Three

Week three’s The Weigh In finds us checking out five quotes regarding last week’s article Women Proposing, Good Idea of Recipe For Disaster? Click on the links following the quotes to read more!

“Will You Be My ... Husband?" Today, women are twisting traditional gender roles more than ever, whether they're running for the presidential nomination, competing in a male-dominated professional golf tournament, hitting the open-wheel racing circuit, or heading a Fortune 500(TM) company. As women take on larger leadership roles in the workplace and in society, it's only natural that they've begun to assume these roles in the realm of romance, as well. This "role reversal" trend is not only evident in the number of women proposing, but in society's willingness to accept this shift, as six out of ten Americans (59 percent) do not think that men should always be the ones to propose.” – Anonymous, from the article Men Off The Hook When It Comes to Popping The Question, Lovetripper. 

“Men love it when women make the first move but they're always saying we don't do enough of it. By asking him to marry you, you are taking the reigns and the heat off of him. Not only does this make him happy, it also shows you to be a modern and unconventional woman which will ease any expectations of you as the traditional chef cooking, bottle-washing superwife.” – Eva Hogan, from the article Should You Propose To Your Man? The Pros and Cons of Taking Marriage Proposal Into Your Own Hands, Wedding Photography Directory.

Writer Streets, from Nicole Bitchie’s blog Bitchie Life, and Marie, That Bad Bitch Blog, disagree and say that women have no place in proposing to men:

“Asking a woman to marry you is one of the penultimate moments in a man’s life. Society, family, and even an inherent instinct tells us that this is a man’s time to take charge, express his feelings for his significant other and declare that this is the moment he wants to make clear that it’s her and him forever. Asking the parent’s for permission, finding the engagement ring (unless you’re against diamonds), and planning the proposal, are nervous and anxious, but fulfilling tasks that men know they will accomplish someday. This whole experience is built for the men to propose to the women, which is why the process loses impact if a woman proposes to a man.” – Streetz, Discussion: Should Women Propose to Men, Nicole Bitchie: Bitchie Life.

“A few women were talking and giving their friend advice on how to propose to her man. Apparently the man was taking too long and the woman felt like her biological clock was on snooze like every 5 minutes. So one lady advised her to go ahead and propose. Now, I don’t know about you, but I feel that if a man wants to marry you, he will propose. If he doesn’t, there is nothing you can do to get him to propose. Going on one knee for your man just adds unnecessary pressure on him and sometimes, makes you look desperate. After all, will you go ask his mother for his hand in marriage?” – Marie, Should Women Propose to Men, That Bad Bitch.

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