Is Online Dating Into You?

Lets not beat around the bush here - we all know that there are stigmas that come with the idea of it: "Only losers do that," "How desperate are you?" "Are you nuts? You don't know who you're meeting. He/She could be some psycho!" Truth is, and what most of the country is starting to realize, you could meet a psycho in real life at a bar, a bookstore, a laundromat, etc., and that regular nice people go online looking for genuine relationships. Most of my friends use dating sites. Hell, even I've tried it a couple of times just to see what's out there!

But that's not my issue.

This past February I read a Time Magazine article which asserted that black men and women are among the least desirable prospects  on the Internet dating scene. Most “mainstream” dating sites have a majority of white users and most of those white users were only open to members of the same race.  Worst yet, even the people who said that they were indifferent to race failed to initiate contact with or respond to members of the opposite sex who were black.  Apparently,   racial open-mindedness sometimes stops short with respect to dating, and cyberspace is no different. This has made many people come to the conclusion that "online dating's just not into black people."

But I think that this conclusion may be wrong.  There is a major flaw in these studies that were conducted by OK Cupid and UC Berkley: they used “mainstream” dating sites like OK Cupid and Match.com.  It does not seem as if they studied more targeted dating sites that particularly market themselves to black people and people who are romantically interested in black people!I believe that if they were to study sites that were created with black people in mind, the conclusion would be very different.

 

What Love and the Black Woman wants to know is whether you are open to finding love online and if so, whether you have felt that the people on sites that you have visited have been open to love from you?  Is online dating into you? . Don’t be shy, Love and the Black Woman wants to hear your voice!