The Weigh In, Week Four

Where's your ring, Ashley Cole?

"For this week's The Weigh In we take a look back at last weeks article, "That 'Pesky' Wedding Band And Your Man." Read on and comment, and make sure to visit our highlighted authors blog/online magazine sites!

"But men who choose to go bandless insist they are doing it for a more innocuous reason than adulterous intentions: an unwillingness to be publicly defined by their marital state. They want to be seen as people before they are seen as married, which presumes that one cannot be both." - Amy Sohn, from the article Men Don't Wear Their Wedding Rings, New York Magazine.

"One of my friend’s husband lost his ring during Superbowl Weekend and she was livid. She let him slide a few months without wearing it but it really took a toll on her emotions. In her mind it was an excuse for him to attract more women. However, his mindset was that he doesn’t act like he’s NOT married but there are men who wear rings and still act like they aren’t married. Moral of the story, women feel some sort of security when he’s wearing the ring when some men just feel like it’s just a piece of jewelry." - Necole Bitchie, from the article Is It A Big Deal If He Doesn't Wear His Ring?, Necole Bitchie: Bitchie Life.

"I feel in society the “ring” has more of significance to a woman then a man. Women have aspirations of a beautiful ring and put a lot more thought than men do into the type of ring they want. Perhaps if there was a mutual feeling with this then it might be different. Also, some men don’t like rings in general.

Lastly, my question to you is this: Is it the ring that makes the marriage or is it the actual communion between the two people that make it?" - Ask A Black Man, from the article Why Don't A lot of Married Men Wear Wedding Rings?, The Urban Daily.

Maybe there is a clueless man out there after all. Kevin Barney muses about his naked ring finger: 

"I was pretty clueless about the role a wedding ring plays as a social cue that someone is married. Maybe it’s because I’m a guy, but that just never occurred to me. The first time I realized that might be an issue was when I was clerking at a law firm after my second year of law school, and apparently the other clerk, a woman, was crushin’ on me a little bit, just assuming that I wasn’t married since I didn’t wear a ring. When she asked me out and found out I was married, she told me I really ought to wear a ring." - Kevin Barney, from On Not Wearing A Wedding Ring, Common Consent, A Mormon Blog.

Divine Caroline lists top ten excuses on her site DivineCaroline where she writes "life in your words." Here she takes a comical approach about men, AND women, who wear too much jewelry to begin with:

"'Over-Gold': Junebug died because of his weakness to gold chains and lots of folks see I’m Gonna Git You Sucka as a cautionary tale. Some men and women just don’t have room on their hands to put an extra ring. The Mafia don can’t stand the sound of his pinkie ring tinking against his wedding band, the winner of the 1992 Cotton Bowl doesn’t want to dishonor his buddies by taking off his jewelry and Sasha Fierce is not removing that full-hand ring for nothing, no way, no how."

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